Cory and I had a big fight about nothing last night. I just love arguments like that. Pointless. We were both tired, stressed, and just took it out on each other. I am feeling insecure about our financial/insurance situation, and I don't know what to do about it. If I try to talk to him about it, he takes it personally. All I want to do is talk about my feelings.

My mom keeps talking about giving an "ultimatum" to make things change with him. Essentially, that's what she had to do with my dad. He went through a time of abusing substances, which started to affect our family. We left. Things did change after that, however, I think this situation is quite different with Cory.

How do I gently suggest things without getting it thrown back in my face? How do I tell him about things that I observe that seem self-destructive and family-destructive?

One of the things that really bothers me about his financial management skills is that he is a master manipulator. If there is something he wants, he will find any and every way to get it. This happened with the computer, the truck, and the vacation. How do I get him to "want" these children and make that a priority? I don't see it happening until they get here.